EFT has extensive research that supports its effectiveness. Scientific research studies show that over 70 percent of couples in EFT went from distressed to happy, and 90 percent significantly improved, in 15 to 20 sessions. Perhaps more important, the results were stable two years later. Many other couples therapies provide improvement in about 35 percent of couples by the end of treatment; of those, between 30 and 50 percent relapse within two years.
The length of your therapy will depend on how deep your conflicts are and how receptive both of you are to therapy. You may need fewer sessions to get back on track, or you may invest in more sessions to get to deeper problems that keep affecting your relationship. Couples therapy generally takes more then ten sessions and fewer then twenty. However, your assessment and treatment plan will be unique to you as a couple, and we will collaborate with you on how much time is appropriate for you.
It’s hard after you’ve invested yourself in a relationship and get to this point. Even if you are ending your relationship, therapy can give you a healthier, less destructive way to close it. And therapy may help you find new solutions to the problems that made the relationship become so troubled.
What if one partner won’t come in?
Sometimes it’s less difficult to agree to just four or five sessions. Then if therapy is helpful you can continue.
We know it takes time to recover from affairs. No one is pressured to forgive their partner if they’re not ready. But it is possible for many couples to heal what’s happened.
Our role is not to be referees. Instead we work to find both partners’ part in the “dance” of your relationship, so you can discover together where you may want to change.
Yes, all types of couples, with all types of cultural backgrounds, can benefit from EFT. EFT is used all over the globe with clients of different ethnicities and religions, and with gay and lesbian couples.